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I was watching a popular show the other night. In this scene, there were 2 teen girls. One teen was telling the other how she just wasn’t sure how she was going to know that the guy she is dating loves her and not his ex. The friend proceeds to tell her that she has to have sex with him to “land him”. I was astounded. Not that we don’t see these things on television every day, but to just hear the words so blatantly spoken between 2 teenagers and realize that in our world, this is what is believed. Instead of telling her friend that she is a beautiful person who deserves to be loved for who she is and what she is, this girl was telling her friend to use her body to win “love”.
First, what we do simply with our bodies does not indicate love. Girls (and boys) do not understand the emotional baggage that comes with premarital sex. I do. I had it and bore that baggage. I have tried so hard to explain not only to my daughter, but to all teen girls who have been in my youth group. Emotional hurt takes so long to heal, and without a savior, many never find their healing.
Our girls are told daily that in order to be loved; in order to “land him” they must offer their bodies. Well, when most girls offer their bodies, they offer their minds and their hearts as well. This is what leads to the emotional pain. I find it disheartening that our society ok’s and even endorses our girls (and guys) act in this manner.
I encourage you, especially if you are a parent, to talk to your children. Tell your sons to treat girls as they deserve to be treated. Tell them to use respect. Tell your girls that they are beautiful and deserve to be treated as such. Tell them that they deserve to have a man who will love them and only them. Tell them that contrary to popular belief, giving your body away will not “land him”. Just a thought….
